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Helping you find  healing through

  • mindfulness
  • body wisdom
  • emotional healing
  • spiritual coaching.

 

Lori Kochevar

Articles of interest

Types of Trauma

  • Auto-accidents/ Fall
  • Sport accidents
  • Medical Surgery/ Dental
  • Illness/ Auto-immune
  • Burns/Wounds/Poison
  • Abandonment
  • Abuse
  • Neglect
  • Disaster
  • Attack-physical/sexual
  • Etc.

Developmental Strategies

My existence is secure (in-utero-3mnths) vs.
  • I do not belong. I am not safe. I am not wanted!
  • My existence is threatened unless I connect intensely in relationships!

It is ok to have needs and my needs can be met (1-18mnths) vs

  • .I am all alone, there is no support, I can't do it!
  • I do not need others, I support myself, don't depend!

I can be both autonomous and intimate (8mnths-2.5yrs) vs.

  • Don't be vulnerable; be tough, weakness is not ok!
  • No one will support my want; I must be manipulative to get it!

My love and sexuality are ok (2-3yrs) vs

  • My sexuality is not accepted, no one gives me attention, I'm not lovable!

I can use my will in balance with others (2-4yrs) vs.

  • Love is conditional on obedience; don't get angry, it is not ok to do what I want!

I can be who I am (3-8yrs) vs.

  • I must achieve to be loved; I'm not good enough or accepted!

 

Stages of the Therapeutic Process

  • Establishing Container
  • Resource review
  • Accessing core information
  • Processing - deepening
  • Transformation - resolution
  • Integration of information
  • Completion

Compassion Fatigue

Symptoms: having difficulty going to sleep and or waking up thinking about the story, nightmares, avoidance of stimuli or person that reminds you of the trauma, feeling estranged and disconnected from others people and activities that use to feel meaningful, anger, fear, burnout, conflict with others that do not understand, intense grief, and feelings of inadequacy.

Trauma

  • Trauma heightens our sense of personal vulnerability
  • Challenges our basic faith and belief systems.
  • Psychological foundation of safety/meaningful existence altered.
  • Trauma can initially create a frozen response of shock, numbness and denial.
  • Flood gates thaw - hijacked by emotional release of anger, anxiety, depression and or grief.

What to do:
1. Know that compassion fatigue exists and is normal.
2. Anyone exposed to people that have been traumatized should not work alone.
3. Scheduling regular ongoing support activities - training, consultation and support groups.
4. Take an active role in making your work more effective, meaningful and creative.
5. Often, re-igniting the passion helps nurture the soul which provides healing on all levels.
6. Call 352-8873 for Compassion Fatigue Self- Test for Helpers by B.H. Stamm & C.R. Figley.

Symptoms of Anxiety and Depression

  • Sleep disturbance
  • Physical pain
  • Nightmares
  • Racing thoughts
  • Lack of energy
  • Desire to isolate
  • Hyper-vigilance

Resource Assessment

Internal and External

  • Psychological
  • Spiritual
  • Relational- connectedness
  • Physical
  • Emotional
  • Intellectual
  • Artistic
  • Organization of Experience
  • Pleasure in Body-mind
  • Survival Skills
  • Creative development

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Page last updated: August 2, 2003